We Have Pelvic Muscles Involved in Assertiveness that can be Strengthened and Toned

I believe that there are abdominal/pelvic muscles that when tonically flexed can stimulate increased blood flow to the sacrum, perineum, and lower spine, increasing approach behavior, surgency and general confidence. I believe that people that are traumatized or forced to subordinate themselves over a long duration are inclined to lose natural tonicity in this area, but it can be recovered by exercising and strengthening the muscles. Most people have an untapped reservoir of muscle here that has atrophied but can be strengthened. I believe that tonicity in these muscles allows the genitals increased vascular blood flow (vasocongestion) and increases the prominence of genital arousal and the accompanying sensations in conscious experience. These muscles include the lower abdominals and the bladder detrusor muscle.  These muscles are separate from the pubococcygeus muscles (which are strengthened in “Kegel” exercises and act to constrict the urethra and anus rather than dilate them). The muscles are continuous with the lower abdominals and in order to incorporate the muscles into standing posture it is necessary to incorporate the lower abdominals as well. This means that you need to practice walking around in day to day life with your lower abs engaged.

It is easy to pinpoint these muscles because they are the same muscles that flex during excretory evacuation. These muscles include the abdominal muscles that aid in the expulsion of urine by increasing the pressure applied to the urinary bladder wall. If you want to engage the muscles, you can pinpoint them during urination. The stream of urine will cease when the bladder has been voided but the muscles themselves can still be flexed. Continue to very firmly squeeze the expulsive muscles near the end of urination and you will notice that these muscles can be flexed much more than they are usually flexed. At first the muscles will feel very tender and underused, but within a few days they can become much stronger. Once you find the muscles, know how to activate and habituate them to constant activity, you can then walk around with them flexed all of the time. After the muscles become stronger and muscle memory starts to build they will become tonically and unconsciously active.  Keeping these muscles flexed all of the time may be beneficial for some forms of abdominal and psychological health. As major muscles that anchor in the pelvic floor, they are integral for core strength and stability. I first discovered that these muscles were largely underused when I was concentrating on flexing my abdominals during long walks. I realized that to really tie the stomach muscles into your stride you must first strengthen the lowest segments of the abdominals, the segments closest to the thighs. I personally was completely unaware of the muscle until I began taking tae kwon do. The muscles may be difficult to locate and strengthen if the area is rarely stretched, but may be more accessible for people that practice high kicking, groin stretches and lower-body workouts.

I believe that I have suppressed these muscles during my lifetime though acquiescent, self-handicapping behavior. I have always been averse to dirty jokes, and overt sexual behavior and this may have led to less sexualized posture growing up. In order to get along with people I often try not to act dominant and I maintain an orderly, inhibited, accommodating and self-effacing demeanor. I believe that I unconsciously allowed these muscles to atrophy because I was submissive, sexually repressive, and anal-retentive. Again, these muscles work antagonistically with the pubococcygeus muscles and anal sphincter muscles which are involved in the retention of feces and urine meaning that they may be especially weak in “retentive” people. The muscles include and work synergistically with the muscles involved in the expulsion of wastes and secretions and thus may be more toned in “anal expulsive” personalities.

I believe that I have suppressed these muscles during my lifetime though acquiescent, self-handicapping behavior. I have always been averse to dirty jokes, and overt sexual behavior and this may have led to less sexualized posture growing up. In order to get along with people I often try not to act dominant and  Imaintain an orderly, inhibited, accommodating and self-effacing demeanor. I believe that I unconsciously allowed these muscles to atrophy because I was relatively submissive, sexually repressive, and anal-retentive. Again, these muscles work antagonistically with the pubococcygeus muscles and anal sphincter muscles which are involved in the retention of feces and urine meaning that they may be especially weak in “retentive” people. The muscles include and work synergistically with the muscles involved in the expulsion of wastes and secretions and thus may be more toned in “anal expulsive” personalities.

Strengthening the muscles “masculinizes” behavior and thought and makes one feel less cautious. Activity and tone in this area may be associated with approach and seizing opportunity. Additionally, I think that it is difficult to stay calm and centered if tone here is low. In fact, as with the visceral muscles, the brain changes the muscle tone here from second to second depending on environmental inputs. You might notice that worry or sudden fear makes these muscles go limp and reduced activity may be associated with withdrawal and subordination. I have noticed that coming into contact with something sharp or experiencing a fear of height causes these muscles to go limp immediately and involuntarily. When you take an ego blow or get upset or flustered they similarly drop out of flexion. If your machismo is questioned but you have the gumption to reassert yourself you might notice the activity here waver and come back stronger. For many depressed and anxious men, this muscle drops out of tonicity during social encounters. For some it drops out of tonicity around women, for other men it may only drop out around highly attractive women. Activity here may partly account for what “shrivels up” in guys when they get their “balls busted.” Losing tonicity in these muscles is akin to castration and gaining it is related to genital sexual arousal and plethysmographic response. Tonicity here may be related to the reflex that keeps the testicles in the low, “hanging” or “dropped” position and thus there may be a specific developmental course for these muscles that plateaus during adolescence. I think that muscle tone can be diminished here when the serotonergic systems are altered artificially and this is why life-long lowered libido is a common side effect from antidepressant therapy. Also, tonic and phasic activity in these muscles leads to increased blood flow and genital turgidity, suggesting that a formal type of physical therapy centered around the muscles could help to treat both diminished sex drive and erectile dysfunction.

Once these muscles are sufficiently exercised it becomes possible to maintain this flexion during intercourse (as long as the lower back muscles are strong enough). If you can maintain tone in this area during sex your erections will become more solid and it will change the quality of your orgasms, I guarantee it. You may have noticed that if you hold a kegel during sex the penis will temporarily inflate and solidify for a few seconds and then subsequently deflate. Engaging the muscles described here (as if you were urinating during sex) will do the opposite; after 4-5 seconds the erection will become stronger and this effect can persist throughout coitus.

Because the muscle can be voluntarily flexed it must have efferent nerves from the motor cortex, and because both voluntary and involuntary changes in its tone can be sensed, it must have afferents to the somatosensory cortex. Tonicity causes the genitals and surrounding erogenous areas to project their arousal responses to the cortex as a form of sensory input. This type of sensory input is key to sexual socialization and reproductive success in mammals. When these muscles generate tone they send arousal signals to the cortex which are capable of entering working memory and thus can be reconciled (consciously or unconsciously) with other environmental inputs. Importantly, this feedback allows animals to learn about the important relationships between its own genital blood flow and exogenous environmental variables. This type of learning allows the animal to understand when to inhibit, when to promote and how to regulate its sexual impulses. I believe that these muscles, because they receive afferents from the motor cortex, may be the somatic incarnation of Freund’s sex instinct. I also believe that the activity and behavior of this area influences the cortex on a global (potentially conscious) level and thus it should be considered a “somatic marker.”

I think that it is very likely that genital retraction is an innate defense mechanism protecting subordinates from sexually dominant individuals, yet another display that is equivalent to collapsed posture. I believe that losing tone and gaining strain in the pelvic region is a self-handicapping mechanism that assumes that it is safer to conceal, and dangerous to advertise one’s level of sexual arousal.Most people are aware that the penis and clitoris shrink in size when exposed to cold. Penile length decreases by up to 50% in a defensive response to low temperature. The flacid penis also shrinks in response to chronic intimidation and sexual subordination. If you have good tone in these muscles your flaccid penis will increase and decrease in size with your level of arousal. If you have poor tone, the flaccid penis will remain at its smallest possible size despite the level of arousal. In popular terminology men who are far from their erect length when flaccid are called “growers” and those who are closer to their erect length are called “showers.” I think that pairing exercise of the urinary expulsion muscles with diaphragmatic breathing can help you to slide down toward the optimal, “shower” end of this continuum.

Ayurvedic medicine recognizes this area as a chakra (Muladhara: the root chakra), and as a power source (kundalini) but does not reconcile this construct with neuroscience or otherwise identify what it does, how it works or how it can be used or strengthened. In some Japanese Zen meditation there is an emphasis on maintaining strength in the general abdominal area (dantian or tanden) where the abs are used as a focal point for meditative exercise. The specific muscles I am describing are not targeted by this practice or the similar, abdominal “hypopressive exercises” or the “vacuum exercises.” In fact, there is no literature on the effects that these muscles may have on cognition or behavior. Also, there is no documentation of individual differences in the tone of these muscles and their influence on personality although surely it exists. Most medical experts on the topic assume that these muscles operate involuntarily. Conversely, I believe that, with practice, it is easy for anyone to exert control over them and use them to affect their psychology. I think that if a person was always surrounded by plentiful resources, and by a harem of individuals from the opposite sex, these muscles would come back into having a healthy tone naturally. Too bad nobody experiences that these days. However, I think that by consciously building it into our standing posture we can achieve the physiology and mental state of an undisputedly dominant, polygamous gorilla. I imagine that building this muscle may be able to increase sexuality, and some forms of psychological well-being – this might be good for people that have experienced a repressing environment. However, if these muscles are strengthened or attended to excessively, they may also introduce distracting sensations and misleading sexual motivations which can be similarly problematic.

Walk Assertively as if Your Genitals Were On Display

I realized that I usually walk in a way that hides or apologizes for my genitalia. Walking like this involves hunching or crouching of the lower back and obscuring the genitals like a dog hiding its tail between its legs. One day I realized that I should do the exact opposite of this, which would be walking around with the back and hips open as if presenting or displaying the genitalia. It is a completely different style of standing and walking that comes across as much more self-assured and relaxed. It is also actually more fun and more comfortable to walk this way as well. Whether you are male or female, try it.

A Helpful Sex Technique for Her Enjoyment: Increasing Clitoral Stimulation

The following describes a hands-free method that aims to stimulate the clitoris during coitus. During penetration the man wants to attempt to create continuous skin-to-skin contact between the fleshy area below the woman’s pubic bone and his own. In other words, the man is pressed up against her mons pubis, gently pressing on top of it. The idea is to try to pin this area down, so that the clitoris and upper labia majora are constantly stimulated during thrusting. Most people don’t do this, they rely solely on penis/vaginal friction where clitoral stimulation is minimal and indirect. Trial and error will help to fine-tune the man’s orientation and stroke, but he wants to simulate the way her fingers would rub the area above the vagina during masturbation.

You might ask: “how can the penis move in and out of the vagina if the mons pubis on the man and woman are supposed to remain in contact?” Imagine that the mon pubis, the area of constant common contact, is the fulcrum, as in the picture below. Then imagine the penis and vagina on the far side of the teeter totter.

 

Sexual intercourse generally proceeds normally with the exception being that the fleshy area around the man’s pubic bone is pressed into hers. It may not be possible to slide the penis all the way in and out while using this technique. The range of motion is reduced, so don’t use the technique exclusively. The technique is perhaps best used with circular hip movements in the coronal plane (it is difficult in the sagittal or transverse planes). All in all, the general idea is to use this point of external contact, and the up and down motion that you are already generating, to ensure that the fleshy tissues surrounding the clitoris are constantly moving back and forth. This provides intermittent pressure, a sliding sensation, and constant stimulation for the clitoris.

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